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Another kind of character obstacle: Narcissism
From;    Author:Stand originally
Narcissism character behaves likeness in what make many sided and hysteria disease character, if affection is theatricalized, still like a gender to tease sometimes etc. The different point of both depends on, the human case extroversion of hysteria disease character, enthusiastic, and the person of narcissism character is introvert, chill.
Remedial method
To the cure of narcissism character obstacle, can use the following method commonly:
1. Remove to be watched selfishly. The mainest feature of narcissism character is egocentric, and the most egocentric phase in life is infantile period. This shows, the behavior of patient of narcissism character obstacle degraded actually infantile period. Si Weiersite is in Zhu Di his " lose necessarily " the respecting in one book: "An infatuation does not wish to lose childhood at the person of the cradle, also cannot get used to adult world " . Accordingly, want to treat narcissism character, must understand the act of those baby suffixation of a nonsyllabic r to nouns and sometimes verbs. The character trait that you can think yourself to the be disgusted with that invite a person is disrelished and others come down to your critical enumerate, look how many to have the component of infantile period. For example:
The attention with ① protracted longing and praise, once be not noticed,use extreme act.
② likes to incite others, regard oneself as a title assumed by an emperor's father who abdicated in favor of his son.
③ is right the good thing lick one's chaps of others, extremely envious to the success of others.
Through recalling oneself childhood, you can discover above character characteristic has its prototype in childhood. For example:
① always yearns for parents attention and praise, every time when parents ignores this, act shamelessly, make trouble or make some of a kick in one's gallop motion in order to draw parental attention.
The clothes when ② childhood will stretch one's hand, the meal comes dehisce, parents is lackey.
③ always wants to have everything, some of other little girl, oneself also want to have.
The act that understood oneself is childhood after the reprint of babyish behavior, you should admonish constantly oneself:
① I must work hard, the attention that will in order to obtain result attract others and praise.
② I am children no longer, a lot of things want him to start work go doing.
Everybody has ③ the good thing that belongs to oneself, I should strive for me to deserved, but due of not envious others.
Still can ask a person that is close to with you to serve as your supervisor, once you appear egocentric behavior, give warning and hint, supervise and urge you are corrected in time. Try hard through these, egocentric view can be removed slowly.
2. The society loves others. To narcissism model for the person, light abandons egocentric idea is insufficient still, still must learn to love others, if this ability is experienced truly,abandoning egocentric view only is a kind of well-advised choice, because you should be obtained,love must give love above all. Fuluomu is in his " the art of love " such viewpoint elaborated in one book: The love of cheeper is abided by " because I am loved,I love " principle; Mature love is abided by " I am loved because of me by love " principle; Immature love thinks " because I need you,I love you " ; Mature love thinks " because I love you,I need you " . Weiersite thinks, pass love. We can surmount life. Narcissism love resembles the love that is cheeper, immature love, accordingly, want hard to try to correct.
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